Søren Kierkegaard, the first existential philosopher, suggested that there are three fashion lifestyles: aesthetic (romantic), ethical (responsible) and agapic (selfless).
When Søren was 21, he fell in love with a Danish teenager, Regine. When she was old enough to date, he swept her off her feet and proposed. (She said yes.) But Søren struggled to reconcile his romantic love for Regine with his agapic aspirations, so broke the engagement and Regine’s heart. By the time he figured it out, she had married someone else. Søren spent the rest of his life secretly obsessing over her and writing a lot about love.